Detention....in the 1st grade??

So, this is what happened...

Last Wednesday, I got a call from the school nurse right about the time she's regularly be picked up after school (2:15-ish) She told me that I needed to come in to get Izabella today because she was inside with her. I asked her if she was ok, yes, then I asked what happened.. "she's been bitten by another student"...ok, I get off the phone, call Steve who goes to pick her up and then I wait until I get home to find out what happened...

The story I got when I got home was that her and this boy (Hunter) we fighting over a place to stand and wait for parents and it escalated until the boy bit her...simple right? NOT so much. Izabella then tells me that she pinched him and then he bit her, so basically, this is now become her fault. We talked to her about keeping her hands to herself and that if something is bothering her that she should always tell a teacher instead of resorting to anything else.

Then, when I get home on Thursday there's a WRITE UP on the kitchen counter that explains the incident in much greater detail than I got from my trusty 6 1/2 year old! Apparently, when they line up for car riders they have to stay put until their name is called. I guess after Izabella sat down, she saw a friend of hers and decided to move to sit by her. Instead of asking Hunter if they could switch places, Izabella just butt in line and sat down. Hunter then started the whole "you are butting in line..." They stared kicking and pushing each other, then Izabella started pinching him and the only way he could get her to stop pinching her was to bite her. And, let me tell you, he didn't break the skin, but her bit her hard. She was already bruised by the time I saw her the day it happened. And you know how it gets worse before it gets better? well, it's u-g-l-y! So, back to the write up...It said that because of this both students had to report to after school detention for the rest of the week. I am so upset with her for starting this fight! We told her to put the shoe on the other foot and tell us what she would do if she'd been Hunter, etc. We also told her that she was in more trouble for starting the fight than just being a party to it...It ALL would've been avoided if she had just asked him if they could switch places instead of just bullying her way into line!

So...she had detention Thurs-Friday, which really wasn't much punishment at all, at least not enough for me! So, she was also grounded from TV, Computer, etc from Thurs-Sunday. Boy, what fun that was for me!! Everything is my fault (naturally, right!). I feel like I was the one grounded, having to listen to all her reasons why it wasn't FAIR!! that she was being punished at home when she'd already been punished at school..blah, blah, blah...this is where I completely tuned her out. She would have had more punishment if Daddy's birthday wasn't last Sunday and Taylor is here all week...

So, anyway that's what happened and I'm starting to get a glimpse of what's to come, I'm trying really hard to make appropriate adjustments to her behavior but com'on she's almost 7 for god's sake! I've got to remember that I am parent and not friend, just yet! I'm really not concerned about her being mad at me (although, that is SO much easier said, than done!! it hurts :( for sure!)

We'll have plenty of time to be friends later...